arse...

[sarah_orange]

wow, tonight, for the first time ever, I worried that I was actually going to get attacked by a drunkard. got accosted by a proper big rugby playing student who was relatively good natured but also a bit threatening too. he kept grabbing me, bear hugging me and trying to kiss me - thankfully his dexterity was impared so I kept managing to wriggle out and escape and carry on walking. I don't think he thought he was being scarey but I suspect if I'd been less, hmm, 'me' I'd have been quite worried. I was slightly chilled by his suggestion that it didn't matter if I had a boyfriend cos they weren't here and anyway he was strong so could do what he wanted. nice. kept him sweet - pointed him in the direction of his halls of residence and made sure he didn't follow me.

but yerk. not good.

Comments

[saccharin-rose.livejournal.com]

Scary stuff...

[waterwytch.livejournal.com]

Doesn't matter how big and strong a man is,give him a kick that sends his testes into low orbit it will incapcitate him,unless he wears a cricket box permantley,then he is really scary!

[sarah-orange.livejournal.com]

apart from that time I kneed tez in the nuts after he punched paul and it had ABSOLUTELY NO EFFECT WHATSOEVER.
then I knew we were in trouble.

[sarah-orange.livejournal.com]

yeah I was a bit panicky at the time but kept it light as I figured getting arsey with him would have been the wrong thing. was a bit upset afterwards in a kind of 'shit...' way.

[wibblefish.livejournal.com]

just wrong. thankk god he could be disuaded without resorting to violence.

[wibblefish.livejournal.com]

not suggesting you couldn't do a good line in violence, but always better to avoid the unpredictable way things could go.

[sarah-orange.livejournal.com]

it was going through my head... I was careful not to mention taekwondo and to use my superior wrasslin' wriggling skills to escape him rather than brute force.

[wibblefish.livejournal.com]

a friends brother inlaw, a renowned kickboxer from memory, killed someone with one strike when attacked a number of years ago. He was cleared of wrong doing but had to go through inquest & possibly trial first.

[mamfa.livejournal.com]

blimey :(

[maviscruet.livejournal.com]

Ok, you know his halls of residence. Do you have any clue of his name. Because turning up well he's sober and telling him basically he scared you and he could have really upset somebody less - well less you - might get him to change his ways.

Mind you might not.

[sarah-orange.livejournal.com]

I do know his name and his course but he'd probably take me chasing him up as a sign of affection. he is a rugby player afterall.

[bolli-bolshevik.livejournal.com]

"it didn't matter if I had a boyfriend cos they weren't here and anyway he was strong so could do what he wanted"

Do not want to sound melodramatic but the last guy who said something like that to me later followed me into the ladies loos at the pub i was in and managed to get one hand down my top and nearly another up my dress before i managed to grab something painful, twist and get the hell out.
Being drunk isnt an excuse to think its alright to lay claim to women without their consent. I know i have only met you briefly a few times, but can guess you are more than capable of tackling the heartiest of prop forwards - but you shouldnt have to think like that to be at work :(

[missjinny.livejournal.com]

Thats not good. It never fails to amaze me when people act in this way and think its acceptable and "just a bit of drunken fun"

I watched a programme on channel 4 a week or so ago called Consent with eveil_girlie666. It left us both furious and sincerely praying we never got into the same situaion and had to rely on a jury of our peers, as it seems our peers are all bigoted idiots.

[dr-misrule.livejournal.com]

Poor Sarah! If you know his name and course, perhaps you should tell raise a complaint with his tutor? He won't take that as a sign of affection.

[faye-darkelf.livejournal.com]

Hope you're okay. Good thing you've got the Taekwondo to fall back on, but it's even better if you don't have to use it.

[i-am-not-lost.livejournal.com]

fucking hell that's terrifying... hope you're alright missy!

two girls were attacked on Burley road over new year, and it's scary to know that there's more nob heads around. I'm really tempted to take up some form of martial art/self defense/ninja death classes. I've had the nhs mental health breakaway/control and restraint training, but to be honest it's about as useful for defense as a paper sword.

maybe contacting someone at the uni is a good idea in case he tries something like that again with someone less nails than the orange? anyone know where I can get some pepper spray?

[sarah-orange.livejournal.com]

I don't think he was actually ~evil~, just very drunk and extremely inappropriate - a not used to dealing with girls type who thinks that grabbing someone's boobs is a fair social introduction...

[myz-lilith.livejournal.com]

But still, evil or just socially inept, he has to learn SOMETIME that it's not a good way to say hello. A stern warning now might save him from a court case later on in life - and other women from very nasty traumatic situation.

Might be worth getting in touch with someone from his Student Union, perhaps? Especially if they have some kind of women's safety officer or something. Less formal than a tutor but hopefully well prepared to deal with just this sort of situation...

[myz-lilith.livejournal.com]

(Oh, and also: Glad you're okay!)

[transcoder.livejournal.com]

So he's assaulted you then....no fucking excuse been pissed...no matter how strong he is and brags on the fact..he therfore sounds a tad dangerous..The next woman might not be so lucky.. Glad your ok!

You're a weirdo magnet!

[lemur67.livejournal.com]

Well he's a man with good taste in women, if a tad incompetent in expressing it. I suspect that, being a dig rugby playing student, he believes that the macho-grabbo approach works best and doesn't have the where-with-all to try any other way of chatting to women.