I'm also told that finding one thing and finishing it is a good goal, even if you put other stuff on hold, as it give a sense of achievement, although I'm still working on that one (I can't comment on that, as I'm... um.. sitting commenting on LJ rather than doing that. ALthough I am lurgied today, which is why I am on LJ at all...) And the thing is, actually making the decision to put stuff off can be wonderfully freeing as well. I mean, a smell of cat wee is still a smell of cat wee. But a smell of cat wee that you have decided can wait until the weekend to be investigated fully is a lot less burdensome than a smell of cat wee you ought to sort out right now but don't have time to.
AS for all the stuff that comes from other people being crap, kicking stuff sems like a very good solution to that.
I know how you feel with the drinking as well. Right now I can't afford taxis as I'm far enough out they cost that bit too much (ie anything), I'm way too out of practice to deal with buses, I don't like relying on Kris for lifts, especially the times when he's not going out cos he's knackered and not wanting to move, and if I drive myself I can't drink, so end up feeling sidelined and dull with nothing to say, and going home early... or not feeling brave enough to go out in the first place. And it would be a lot easier if I could find a way to be as happy and relaxed when I'm out sober, as I'd probably get out more, but I do end up feeling so dull and invisible and the word-well just dries up.
BUT I do want to learn how... and if you'd like a non-drinking buddy for a sober night out sometime, let me know... we can sip cocktails of diet coke and lime, and marvel at how little we're spending and how few claories we're consuming, and sneer at all the drunken people while cringing inwardly and hoping we never looked like that, and hopefully find some sane and sober fun AND remember it the next day!
As for alienating men you like? Pshaw! Generally when that happens, in retrospect it always turns out that they were aliens in the first place! "It's not you, it's him" may be a cliche, but it is one for a reason... usually you'll find that guys are eyebrow deep in their own crazy and so focussed on that, that they don't even register your crazy even if you bash them over the head with it... repeatedly!
Oh, and I always carry a thingie of lavender body oil with me in my bag - means I always have a cover-up scent in case I fear I / my clothes / the whole office is whiffy, and can also sniff it as a calm-down relaxation thing. (Actually that sounds way more organised than reality would allow... so for "always" insert a given value of "when I actually consolidate all my various bags for long enough to have it in the one I am carrying, and when I actually remember that it's in there AND can find it". But in theory, and the occasional time in practice, it's a good idea....)
I would say look after the neck pain first. I've lost a lot of time this year to bad health when the eczema has been insane, which has meant I've been highly begrudging of the additional time I've had to spend looking after it... but everything else is so much easier to deal with if you are feeling fit and well within yourself. Do whatever you have to do to sort your neck out, even if that means putting other stuff on hold - and do what you need to to make sure you're eating and sleeping properly - it's a time investment, because you get twice as much achieved when you're in good shape as you do when you're struggling through in pain.
Oh, and between us Kris and I have at least one out of "I want Candy" and "Go Wild in the County" - probably both. (I also have some truly cheesy 80's collections if you want to browse any - although I imagine you have much of it already ;-) )
And I seem to have done an awful lot of talking about me in a reply that was meant to be about you *sigh* Bad Anna!
You have my number hon, if you want a chat, or a rant, or someont to come round for a glass of wine or a cup of coffee or to help you hunt down that damn smell of cat pee, just give me a call *snuggle*
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AS for all the stuff that comes from other people being crap, kicking stuff sems like a very good solution to that.
I know how you feel with the drinking as well. Right now I can't afford taxis as I'm far enough out they cost that bit too much (ie anything), I'm way too out of practice to deal with buses, I don't like relying on Kris for lifts, especially the times when he's not going out cos he's knackered and not wanting to move, and if I drive myself I can't drink, so end up feeling sidelined and dull with nothing to say, and going home early... or not feeling brave enough to go out in the first place. And it would be a lot easier if I could find a way to be as happy and relaxed when I'm out sober, as I'd probably get out more, but I do end up feeling so dull and invisible and the word-well just dries up.
BUT I do want to learn how... and if you'd like a non-drinking buddy for a sober night out sometime, let me know... we can sip cocktails of diet coke and lime, and marvel at how little we're spending and how few claories we're consuming, and sneer at all the drunken people while cringing inwardly and hoping we never looked like that, and hopefully find some sane and sober fun AND remember it the next day!
As for alienating men you like? Pshaw! Generally when that happens, in retrospect it always turns out that they were aliens in the first place! "It's not you, it's him" may be a cliche, but it is one for a reason... usually you'll find that guys are eyebrow deep in their own crazy and so focussed on that, that they don't even register your crazy even if you bash them over the head with it... repeatedly!
Oh, and I always carry a thingie of lavender body oil with me in my bag - means I always have a cover-up scent in case I fear I / my clothes / the whole office is whiffy, and can also sniff it as a calm-down relaxation thing. (Actually that sounds way more organised than reality would allow... so for "always" insert a given value of "when I actually consolidate all my various bags for long enough to have it in the one I am carrying, and when I actually remember that it's in there AND can find it". But in theory, and the occasional time in practice, it's a good idea....)
I would say look after the neck pain first. I've lost a lot of time this year to bad health when the eczema has been insane, which has meant I've been highly begrudging of the additional time I've had to spend looking after it... but everything else is so much easier to deal with if you are feeling fit and well within yourself. Do whatever you have to do to sort your neck out, even if that means putting other stuff on hold - and do what you need to to make sure you're eating and sleeping properly - it's a time investment, because you get twice as much achieved when you're in good shape as you do when you're struggling through in pain.
Oh, and between us Kris and I have at least one out of "I want Candy" and "Go Wild in the County" - probably both. (I also have some truly cheesy 80's collections if you want to browse any - although I imagine you have much of it already ;-) )
And I seem to have done an awful lot of talking about me in a reply that was meant to be about you *sigh* Bad Anna!
You have my number hon, if you want a chat, or a rant, or someont to come round for a glass of wine or a cup of coffee or to help you hunt down that damn smell of cat pee, just give me a call *snuggle*
Will see you Sunday if not before...